“You will be told exactly what God wills for you each time there is a choice to be made.”
A Course in Miracles
Yesterday, a girlfriend called me in a panic about a possible loss of housing. Today, another friend phoned about an unexpected loss of income. In both scenarios, the circumstances kicked in survival fears and a lack mentality, as it would anyone.
“What’s going on? Why’s this happening? What do I do now?” they asked. And that really is it, what do I do now? That question throws our minds far into the future. Where will I live? Will I have enough food for my kids? How will I survive?
But, scaring ourselves with an unknown future isn’t going to access guidance for the here and now. Guidance won’t tell you what to do until it is time to do something. Guidance is very present, and so, we must become very present.
Waffling with unknown variables only confuses us and adds to the anxiety. The only way to gain clarity is to get present.
Remembering from my own crisis experiences, I shared with my two friends the tools that helped:
1) Practice “First things first”. Gathering information from experts or friends is a powerful way to regain your footing. Armed with information, you now have a more solid footing in which to make better decisions. Gathering information gives us a sense of stability and lets us know our options.
2) Stay in the present. Guidance speaks to you about the now, not about the what-if’s and somedays. Do you have everything you need today? What actual actions can you take today? What is reasonable to expect from yourself today? Just for today, look at what you can control and focus upon that. Keep your mind on the next 5 minutes if need be. It’s the only place we have any control, and, in reality, is the only time that exists. It’s also enough.
3) Give your nervous system a rest. If the choice is between worry and denial, I choose denial every time. I call it “healthy denial”. It’s the time we build a puzzle, escape into a movie, or sit on a blanket and bask in the sun. Healthy denial is about letting go of the situation causing you stress long enough to give your nervous system a rest. It’s about being kind and loving to yourself. We call it self-care.
When a situation rocks our world, that isn’t the time to make a decision, unless one needs to be made. And if one does, calming the mind with some focused breathing can help align you with your own peace of mind. A sliver of calm is all that is required for a moment of clarity to appear.
But until an actual decision needs to be made, look at what is on your table for today. We usually don’t know what to do about next week or next month, but we are pretty clear about what to do in this moment.
Guidance is available in the present moment at all times. When panic strikes, keep your head where your feet are, let go of what you can’t control, and give yourself permission to feel a space of peace, in spite of any circumstances.
Then be curious what good is coming from this and wait for your miracle to arrive.
You are safe, you are loved, and you are led – always.
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