• When Do You Leave?

    ff contemplative woman

    The relationship that once ignited roads of possibilities, now feels like a dead end.

    The job that at one time was a grateful godsend, now feels like a yoke you dawn daily, right after brushing your teeth.

    The career you so proudly preened to show the world, now feels like last year’s fashion.

    Often times in life, we journey on a particular path because it feels right at the time. Nothing is by chance and all are opportunities for growth. But sometimes, the path we choose becomes overgrown with weeds and brambles, and we find ourselves chopping at the foliage, hoping to find our way again.

    Is this a sign it’s time to go? Do we leave? Or is there more we are to learn? Could there be a breakthrough any minute if we stay?

    I’ve experienced all these situations myself, and each time I had to fight the impulse to act. And each time, I was grateful I did.  Not that it was easy. I questioned myself, my sanity, and my bank account. I wondered if I would be making the biggest mistake of my life or the best decision ever, depending on which I chose. But in each case, I applied the old adage, “When in doubt, don’t”.

    Nothing is by chance. Spirit is always working on our behalf to free us to greater possibilities of freedom and living life as our Higher Selves.

    If you are finding yourself questioning your path, then that is where you are right now – questioning. Questions do not require action; they require acceptance. The only way to come to know your heart’s truth is to trust the path you’re on, even if at the moment it feels like the wrong one. Accept that all you know right now is you don’t know. And that’s not only okay, it’s necessary. Confusion keeps us from acting too quickly or going down a road not in our best interest.

    There is a divine timing to any situation, and leaving is no exception. Your perfect path to freedom lies in perfect peace. I’ve said it before and stand by it now, peace is your ultimate litmus test to any situation. Until you feel peace, whether that peace comes from staying or going, wait. Action taken out of fear is misguided action. It is the ego’s desire to get out of the confusion and regain control. Certainty, not necessarily happiness, is its incentive.

    Some of you may question whether this applies to moving forward in life or taking chances on your dreams. My answer is to ask yourself, “What frightens my familiarity the most, moving forward or staying still?” It’s the familiarity the ego wishes to regain because it’s a known path. If staying still feels “safer”, then I would give yourself permission to simply explore options of actions. However, if taking action is the familiar path and standing still rocks your world, then consider existing on shaky ground for a while.

    So what do you do while you’re waiting for clarity?

    1)      Practice acceptance for where you are. You cannot know what direction is best for you until you accept where you are. No amount of pros and cons listing will force an answer before it’s time.  Be with the discomfort. It’s going to be there anyway, so you might as well be friendly towards it.

    2)      Work on yourself. During this time, be willing to practice being the person you’d like to be.  When this time passes (and it will), your future self will be able to look back with integrity and without regret. You will also strengthen the very qualities emerging within you. In the words of 12 Step programs, “Let it begin with me.” This act alone can transform you and the circumstances you see.

    3)      Trust peace and clarity will come, for it will. “Think not you understand anything until you pass the test of perfect peace, for peace and understanding go together and can never be found alone,” from A Course in Miracles.  When it is time to act, you will know.

    In the meantime, we can never go wrong with self-kindness. Love yourself the best you can. Seek support when you need it. And know, it will all work out in the end:)

    You are safe, you are loved, you are led – always!

    Dawn Petalino
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