“Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
– The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost
When we think of the “road less traveled” in our own lives, we may believe it is the brave, bold act of doing something outrageous, like a bucket list. And that could be.
However, the real test comes in asking, “is this what my heart truly wants right now?”
I used to think the road less traveled meant I had to burn my own path through hard work and determination. I thought in order to get what I wanted, I needed to risk doing more.
What I didn’t know was the pathway of hard work and determination was not my road less traveled, it was my driveway- I traveled that road all the time!
Be warned, the old path of safety often arises out of what the mind thinks we “should” do. The less traveled path of uncertainty, on the other hand, is filled with hidden longings of the heart intertwined with a bit of fear over, “what would happen if I really did that?”
To continue “working hard” at many things – taking an on-line business course, giving more speeches and classes, and committing to a relationship by enlisting a counselor – did not make my heart feel any lighter. In fact, it made me feel like pulling the covers over my head and crying (which I did).
But when I could finally be honest and admit to myself I didn’t want the things I thought I should want, I was able to hear what I really did want.
I wanted fun. I wanted freedom. I wanted to be “selfish” and do only the things I felt like doing. In other words, I wanted to be care-free, the opposite of hard-working.
And so, breaking out of my comfort zone, I put off the business course, cleared my calendar of any extra commitments, and broke off the relationship, realizing, for me, breaking the pattern meant leaving the relationship, not working harder.
I now sleep in, enjoy summer evenings listening to music, reconnect with old girlfriends, and have flexibility in my work and responsibilities without feeling rushed or pressured.
At times, my old brain is afraid I’ll never be motivated to do anything ever again, go broke, and find I’ve lived a meaningless life.
But the truth is I haven’t sacrificed anything in my life to live this way. In fact, I now have more pleasure, more time, and more connection with myself and others.
Why? Because I’ve aligned with the Source within me and from there, all my needs are met. The peace and gratitude I feel are simply validation of following that path.
The road to our true desires will come from the direction of our Higher Self, not from our head (after all, who do you think put them there?).
Take the time to listen honestly to your heart, act on what you know is true to the extent you can, and allow this Source to take you down the road to your personal life of joy and fulfillment.